Anger

Anger is

but one

letter away

from

danger.

The same

person will

become

angry

again.

Anger is a fear of the unknown.

Anger, like many other negative feelings can be used to hide many other true emotions.

Grown men don't cry, they rage.

Little ladies scream and yell, then they cry.

Frustration, fear of failure, lack of control, low self esteem,

and often just plain stupidity will excite a sick person into an angry rage.

Stupid is not having the ability to learn.

Ignorant is not yet having learned.

Anger is not willing to learn.

Anger has yet to win a war.

Anger has yet to win an argument.

Anger has yet to win a friend.

Anger is a bad feeling, a negative emotion and a nasty habit that is not healthy 

and if you are angry it is suggested that you change your attitude, quickly.

Anger is bad acting used to hide true feelings and emotions.

Change is a process not an event.

If we follow directions, life is simple.

Feel the feeling, learn why we are having the feeling, discuss the feeling 

with another human being  ( pets and your favorite toy are not human), 

and learn how to express your concerns in a civil manner.

Everyone has a right to be angry from time to time,

but it is not necessary to display, through bad acting,

that you do not know how to cope with life.

If you are angry because of things you are really stupid or ignorant, or both.

Things are things and they can usually be replaced.

Things break and sometimes they can be fixed, sometimes

they can't be fixed or they aren't worth trying to fix.

Do not get angry, get a second opinion.

Becoming angry because the car will not start, the faucet leaks,

the door will not close, the neighbor ran over the mailbox again,

is a waste of time and a serious waste of good emotions.

Becoming upset or angry with others is a concern that can

and must be changed.

The children and spouse do not do what you want them to because

they are people and they have a right to do what they want to.

They probably don't want to be with you because you are mean

and nasty and at any given moment you may go into a rage

for who knows what reason, real or imagined.

You own things, you do not own people.

Change yourself, you cannot change other people.

Change is about learning to make better choices.

If you are pleasant, nice, willing to learn, have patience

and tolerance, you are forgiving, and you can laugh, you will be surprised 

by how people will be willing to do what you want them to do, 

and they just can't be around you enough to share the good times.

"It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh
at the same time.
Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive
and you have the power to choose either."     ~  Wayne Dyer

Patience, and when all else fails, give it to your Higher Power.

Let go, and let God. If you can't, He can.

Still have to be in control, seek professional help.

Today, pray for the will of your Higher Power to have

the nicest person in the world be you.

Today, laugh at the silly mole hills of inconvenience in your life,

and do not let them grow into mountains of despair.

Today, know the difference between things and people, and

know that those people in your life are much more valuable

than any thing that you could ever own.

Live simply, love generously, care deeply,

speak kindly and trust in a Creator who loves you.

May your angry moment of today be because you do not have

enough to give to someone who needs it more than you do.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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Take Notice

We do not own ourselves, 

we belong to the Universe.

No one planned to come into existence.

Life is a gift to us and life dwells inside 

every cell of our being.

We must learn not to take ourselves 

so seriously.

We must learn to protect life 

and try to make this world 

a better place for all.

To take notice is to become aware, it does not mean that we have to understand.

Why did life came into existence and why are we such an infinitesimal speck compared 

to the whole of the Universe are questions whose answers only the Great Creator 

knows and understands.

What we need to take notice of is the here and now and

to believe that we are doing the best we can to enjoy this life.

Learn how to, practice how to, share and know unconditional love.

The here and now is seeing, hearing, reading, listening

and doing whatever is necessary to learn how to better enjoy this life.

Emulate the winners, the happy and the content, and do not

follow the example of the negative naysayer.

The here and now is learning to share the happiness

and joy that comes from living a life which obeys the will of a Higher Power.

"True happiness is to enjoy the present,
without anxious dependence upon the future,
not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears
but to rest satisfied with what we have,
which is sufficient,
for he that is so wants nothing.
The great blessings of mankind are within us
and within our reach.
A wise man is content with his lot,
whatever it may be,
without wishing for what he has not."  ~  Seneca

Take notice that we no longer dwell in the Garden of Eden.

Take notice that we do not live in a dream world.

Take notice that you need to breathe, eat and do what is necessary to continue living.

The most important thing that we can be aware of is that

we can enjoy and have delight in doing what is necessary.

As with all things in our life we must take notice when it is necessary to change.

It may not be Eden, but where you dwell must be safe.

It may not be a dream world, but it should be a place where you are allowed

to have dreams.

Having the necessities of life should not be a worry or a problem that is caused by others.

Take notice that you may have to change the people, places and things in

your life if they are preventing you from living a life that is happy, joyous and free.

Love is not a reason to live or die, love is a necessity that keeps us alive.

Love is being with the right people, at the right place, at the right time.

Do what is necessary to improve your life.

Make a gratitude list.

Pray for guidance.

Change what you can.

"Yes, there is a Nirvanah;
it is leading your sheep to a green pasture,
and in putting your child to sleep,
and in writing the last line of your poem."  ~  Kahlil Gibran

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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Joy

"Shared joy 

is double joy, 

and shared 

sorrow is 

half-sorrow."

-Swedish proverb

 

The joy of sharing is what makes life worth living.

To have enough to share is a joy in itself.

Sharing does not mean you have to give things, although food, clothing and shelter 

are great donations, the most important thing is that you share your love.

"Without a rich heart,
wealth is an ugly beggar."      ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Giving of your time to listen to someones sorrow

may be all that you will ever need to share.

"Wealth is the ability to fully experience life." ~ Henry David Thoreau

To measure wealth, do not look at a persons wallet

or pocketbook, look at their heart.

"The real measure of your wealth is how much
you'd be worth if you lost all your money."       ~ Anonymous

Because you are a joy to be with, and because you are

kind enough to listen to the woes of others, you will have friends.

In your time of sorrow, those friends will be there to listen to you.

Do not be needy and manufacture worries that are

used to elicit sympathy on a daily basis.

Perceived worries are not true sorrows.

We cannot survive on sympathy.

We live a better life when we share the joy of loving and being loved.

Joy is a simple thing.

Joy is a smile.

Joy is a thank you.

Joy is just being there.

True joy is having someone to be there with you.

If you do not have a friend it is because you do not want one.

You must first be a friend to have a friend.

The joy of a really good friendship is not having to keep score.

Who listens the most, who gives the most, who sacrifices the most, 

are things true friends never even consider.

True friends are the ones who laugh with you,

cry with you and most of all, just enjoy being with you.

Joy is not just being "in" the clique, it is belonging to a group 

of friends who share common interest and whose interest include 

making this world a better place for all.

Beware, there are negative cliques and cliques that know

everything, and cliques that are always right.

Friends are not negative, they want to learn with you and

they are willing to make a mistake trying to do joyous things.

Cliques tend to be exclusive, friends are inclusive, be a joy and share the love.

Do the will of your Higher Power and approach living with a positive attitude.

When things happen and you are emotionally moved to

have feelings, find the appropriate feelings and deal with life.

Negative feelings of rage, anger and spite are never appropriate.

If you do not know how to feel or what to feel, call a friend or three.

If the event brings you sorrow, share the sorrow with a friend,

learn to grieve, accept, and get on with your life.

Do not miss a present joyous event because you are stuck in a past

sorrow that you cannot change.

Today, accept sorrow, share sorrow, but look for joy.

Today, make your gratitude list and start the day with a thought

of joy , love and laughter.

Laugh often, Sing loud, and, Dance when you get the chance!

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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ME and the Boss

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What You See Is What You Get

Under the influence of the alter ego, 

we became the Mr. Hyde to our Dr. Jekyll.

We became the super powered person, the 

 great dancer, the great conversationalist, 

the greatest sales person, the great lover, 

 the great hunter, the greatest whatever

they were talking about.

If they did it, we did it one better.

For those who wish to live a healthy and sane life, the grandiose

la la land of our alter egos is a place that can no longer be visited.

It is also important to note that seeking to alter the mind and mood 

 by the use of external influences is only adding fuel to the fire.

In spite of who or what you may want to be,

you are who you are, and what you see is what you get.

Everyone has a small split in their personalities,

that small moment between the good thought and the evil thought,

  

and we must learn to live with it.

Today, make a conscious effort to know which side of the split you are on.

"All speech, written or spoken ,is a dead language,   
until it finds a willing and prepared hearer."  ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

 It takes two to communicate.

Talking to yourself, inside that little space on the top of your head, 

 does not qualify as a conversation.

No one is prepared to listen to lies, and include yourself on that list.

Most sane people know that the most willing and prepared hearer is a Higher Power.

Prayer is talking to your Higher Power to seek His or Her

guidance, meditation is listening for the answer.

Those people that talk to their Higher Power on a regular basis

are people who are happy and content with who and where they are.

 If you do not like where you are, move, but be sure to take your mind with you

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If you have no friends, the family has disowned you, and the dog ignores you, 

don't move, just change the side of the split that your personality is on.

"I have resolved that from this day on,
I will do all the business I can honestly,
have all the fun I can reasonably,
do all the good I can willingly,
and save my digestion by thinking pleasantly."  ~ Robert Louis Stevenson 

Whether it was a hundred years ago, or just yesterday, a good mantra,

a good philosophy of living has always included being honest, having fun

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helping others and obeying the will of a loving Higher Power.

The most honest thing we can do is to be honest to ourselves.

Having fun is being able to laugh at ourselves and with others.

When we help others, we help ourselves.

Doing the will of a Higher Power means we do only those

things which come from the good side of our split personalities.

Pray to your Higher Power.

"Give us grace and strength
to forbear and to persevere.
Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind,
spare to us our friends,
soften to us our enemies."   ~ Robert Louis Stevenson 

Today, remember that your day will be as good as you make it, 

 so go with the personality that is on the awesome side.

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Sponsor

I can't give solutions
to all of life's problems, doubts, or fears,
 But I can listen to you,
and together we will search for answers.

I can't change your past
with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories,
But I can be there now
when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling,
I can only offer my hand
that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes,
and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you, and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, or from me;
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

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High Hopes

Can

the ant

move the

rubber

tree

plant??

Yes he can;

because he has high hopes.

With the help of your Higher Power you to can hope to move mountains,

just remember to bring along your shovel.

"Hope is the parent of faith."    ~ Cyrus A. Bartol

Plan, wish, hope or faith, it is necessary that one awakes

every day with thoughts of positive confidence.

Today, you may not have to move a rubber tree plant or a mountain 

but be prepared to do your best in service to yourself, mankind 

and your Higher Power.

Don't lose hope, when the sun goes down, the stars come out.

Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

The most important thing is to get out of bed and live life to its fullest.

Unless you are making your gratitude list or planning life's activities, 

sitting around thinking could get you into a bad space, your head.

Idle time produces idle thoughts and idle thoughts bring trouble.

Do not look at responsibilities in life as a burden and feel blessed if 

someone thinks you are responsible enough to help them to live, 

love and hope.

Family dysfunction is caused by a fear of expressing feelings

or by displaying inappropriate feelings at the wrong time, even though 

we know there is never an appropriate time to display bad manners??

Everyone in the family becomes selfish, self centered and hopeless.

To make your family functional, establish boundaries

and put love on top of the list of appropriate feelings.

Temper tantrums are never on the list of appropriate feelings:

"Where did that child learn those behaviors??".

Do not let negative people drag you down into their dismal swamp of despair.

There will be negatives in everyone's life, you do not need to go looking for more.

Today, have high hopes that  that you can make at least one person smile 

because you truly care about them.

"To love means loving the unlovable.
To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable.
Faith means believing the unbelievable.
Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless."  ~ Gilbert K. Chesterton

My wish for you today is that you will find your Higher Power

and that She or He will give you more than you could ever hope for.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

Michael_e

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The Will To Carry On

Where there is 

a will

there is a

way.

The will of a

loving Higher Power 

will show you the way 

to love and peace.

The burdens of living can be sometimes so daunting that there

appears to be no need to carry on.

The body is wracked with illness or disease.

The mind cannot focus on simple matters because

so much is happening.

The soul has forgotten its place in our heart and we

feel abandoned and alone.

Accept.   (God's world)

Change.   (Your attitude)

The body is God's temple, take care to keep it strong.

"Our bodies are our gardens... our wills are our gardeners."  ~ William Shakespeare

Man has been blessed by a Higher Power to be able to see and to reason.

Men and women, whom we call scientist and doctors,

continue to understand more and have more resources to determine

why the body becomes sick or diseased.

Because of the ever increasing knowledge gained by the medical world, 

one's chances for surviving illnesses and disease have been greatly improved.

The will to carry on the research and to continue seeking more

medical knowledge is the inspiration of many people.

Curing the mind is a totally different bag of worms.

An attitude of gratitude is the first prerequisite for developing a healthy mind.
 
We must say a prayer of thanks every morning for being alive, sober 

and able to do God's will for one more day.

Do not just repeat the prayer, say the prayer with feelings, with conviction,

with an honest belief, because, lip service can get one into so much trouble.

To clear your mind you must learn to meditate, the art of listening 

to a Higher Power answering your prayers.

Ask your Higher Power to take those images and thoughts from

your mind which you have no control over. (Other people)

Ask your Higher Power to give you the strength to take the best action 

with those thoughts you can control. (Your attitude.)

Love, whether it is soft or tough, will usually cure most of

the dilemmas our minds can concoct.

Love your problems, love your enemies and your Higher Power

will make the problems go away and vanquish your enemies.

What love will not cure, accept, and let go and let God handle the outcome.

"Happiness is secured through virtue;
it is a good attained by man's own will."  ~St. Thomas Aquinas

To uplift your spirits, to find peace in your soul, ask to help someone else.

Be cautious, you will see many sick and suffering who may need your help,

but only those who ask for help will probably listen, no guarantees.

Put balance in your life.

A little love for self, a little love for your friends and leave a

little love for those who need it, even if you may never meet.

"Man has will, but woman has her way."  ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

The will to carry on is not a burden, it is an attitude.

Today, give your attitude to your loving Higher Power and be content 

to carry on by doing  His will.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

Michael_e

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